Wednesday, March 23, 2011

The Toy Box

Here are some of my favorite toys:

Floggers - My first real intro to floggers was at a party. I was familiar with them but had never used them or had them used on me. Let me tell you, it's wonderful. They can be made to have more of a stinging feeling or more of a thud. Of course after the beatings running them lightly over flesh feels amazing.

Vampire Gloves - These aptly named gloves are one of my absolute favorite things ever. Run your nails lightly over your skin. Feel good? Of course it does. These gloves have tiny spikes on them and give you that same sensation as having someone lightly run their nails over your skin. Scary name but at least for me, these are for playing nice. :)

Rope - I'll admit it. I'm a rope addict. Gimme 15, 30, 50 feet of that 6mm nylon goodness. When someone puts me in a harness that rope feels like a favorite well worn t-shirt. Did I mention it looks fucking amazing too?

Suspension is another aspect of rope that has to be experienced. Wanna fly? Get suspended and see how quickly you get addicted to it. Another great thing about rope is the knots. You can tie them anywhere.


And of course the knots lend themselves well to...

The Hitachi - Here's why:
1. Get (SAFELY) tied up with some knots down in your lower area with at least on over your clit.
2. Turn Hitachi on an press against one of the knots
3. You're welcome

And those are some of my favorite toys!

Monday, March 21, 2011

Independence and the life

Is it wrong that despite having someone offering to pay for me to travel, I'd still prefer camwhoring so I can do it on my own?

I've never been comfortable with other people taking care of me. Even when I was on crutches I insisted on doing things on my own. Growing up I learned to stand on my own to feet so now that I have someone willing to help me and take care of me, it's hard to accept it. I'm trying to swallow my pride but I'd much rather go on a vacation that I can contribute to (or completely finance) than be taken out.

Am I trying to keep a distinct separation of the two things, being paid for my company vs wanting to treat me because my own company is a gift? We love each other so who am I to deny him having me around. I love him and I'd love to spend that time with him. Maybe he thinks that if he does this I won't be so interested in sex work anymore. That's not the issue. I'll still be interested in the things I'm interested regardless of the time and money he spends. Work won't change my feelings for him. He's a separate entity.

A job is a job. You just separate the two.

Found this doing a search on the Weimar Rebuplic

And there's sex so it's relevant.

My mind's refusing to acknowledge the guy on the left as anyone but Captain Jack Harkness.

Now feel free to go and continue your sexing...safely.

Sunday, March 20, 2011

The Tell-all Escort: While on the subject of the unfortunate side-effec...

The Tell-all Escort: While on the subject of the unfortunate side-effec...: "Let's talk about how artery plaque affects your ability to achieve the raging hard-on of your dreams:I take a lot of massage appointments, ..."
I’ve met 90 year olds who have lead a healthy life and still get rock hard erections. Be them instead.

Truth. Guys (and Dolls) - If you're looking for more motivation to get to the gym/rock wall/stripperobics, there's your reason.

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Musings @ a quarter to 5

I should be sleeping, I have an early morning.

I've spent the better part of my evening Skyping with my boyfriend and our friend. I was naked most of the time just for the fun of it; no one cared. I like that freedom. I don't understand why people are afraid of sex/sexuality/the human body.

It's beautiful.

I also don't understand how we we demonize sex and call it dirty in one breath then tell kids sex is for someone special in the next. Can someone explain that to me?

Monday, March 14, 2011

Career Opportunities

A short while ago I asked people this question:

If you had to pick an alternative career, what would you pick?

I only defined "alternative" if someone asked as "something not the norm". Now, I had all sort of things in my head: tv show host, almost anything on Dirty Jobs, etc. When I got my answers almost everyone chose something in the sex industry. The other popular answer was assassin.

What is it with our obsession of sex and death? Is it that forbidden allure? Money? Hollywood glamorization? In the movies the hookers always have gorgeous clients and the assassins kick ass in sexy body suits. Seriously, who didn't watch Kill Bill and want to pick up a samurai sword?

The most common answers I got were stripper and dominatrix. America is schizophrenic when it comes to sex. We hold puritanical views and freak out when nipples are exposed on tv yet its influence is everywhere in our media. Sex tapes get as much media attention as the next movie where Michael Bay blows shit up. Still, when most people are quick to call strippers "sluts" and Pro Dommes "whores" with utter contempt in their voices.

Is our secret desire to pursue these careers a reflection of our desire to express our sexuality in a society that tries to stifle that behavior?

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Cam Girls

I'm going to kick things off with one of my favorites. Web Cam Girls.

We've all seen ads for them whether we're trying to watch tv online, game, or nearly anything else. They're everywhere. My favorite is Kayla123, whose boyfriend seems to break up with her time I go to surfthechannel to watch Battlestar Galactica. But I digress.

Cam girl offer an intimate experience for people who want something more personalized than porn. For a lot of women who choose to be a cam girl, it allows exploration in the sex industry without some of the risks associated with stripping at a club and escorting. Some do it for the money, some for the thrill of being watched. I'm a bit of an exhibitionist and if I could ever get my partner to consent, would love to give it go either solo or partnered.  There's something about knowing I'm being watched that thrills me.

Being in control also excites me. Yes, those paying make requests but I'm still ultimately in power with the right to say no. It's...well...empowering which is part of what sex work is about to me. And by doing it on webcam there's little risk. The biggest worry is that someone you know might see you or someone could record the stream. If that's a worry, there are wigs (just secure that thing to your head!) and if your stream gets recorded and uploaded most companies are good about getting those videos taken down.

There are a lot of sites out there so it's worth checking out what they each offer. LiveJasmin is one of the most popular ones with some of the highest traffic. MyFreeCams has also been recommended for beginners. The one that's appealed to me is They have a few points that I really like:

  • Training - lots of newbies aren't entirely sure what to do which can cost them. You wouldn't start any other new job without training, would you?
  • Weekly pay -  Because 2 weeks can be a long time between paychecks
  • No minimum payout - Who decided to have a min. anyway?
  • Several payment methods - Paypal! Sometimes you need to be more discreet/don't want things linked to a bank account. 
  • Affiliate program - Agents make 10% of what the models they get to sign up make. Unlike some companies where that money comes from the model's check, InternetModeling pays you. 
I maintain, who doesn't want to get paid for doing what they should be doing already. C'mon ladies, you've been told before: masturbation is good for you! Venture into a sex shop/website/sex party and get your own big fat dildo! You can even name it! My friend named one of her's Justin since it quite literally was a "dick in a box."Be creative and have fun! - Webcam Models Wanted!

Saturday, March 12, 2011


It sells.

For the last few years I've had a growing interest in the sex industry and in sex workers.  From cam girls to call girls to that woman who sells your girlfriend that cherry lube that you love to use, plenty of people deal in sex.

It's an industry that has drawn lots of criticism and can be very polarizing and while plenty people want to see it eliminated, I saw we embrace it and the workers who have chosen this career for themselves. I want to use this blog to explore different aspects and path out there.