Your chance to help fund a sex worker's right billboard

I've written before about Furry Girl's sex worker's rights group SWAAY.

Right now the organization is running a campaign to fund America's first sex worker's right billboard in Los Angeles. The billboard was created as a response to the Ashton and Demi human trafficking media parade and the need to educate the public on what actually defines a sex worker.

The running design looks like the one presented above and has until August 17th to be funded. The project is being funded through EpicStep.com which is essentially a Kickstarter for billboards.

Click here to learn more about the project and to donate.

Is it weird?

Is it weird that the more I hear people talk about how damaging porn is and how everyone in the sex industry is abused/manipulated/unhappy/etc., the more I really want to go into porn?

It just seems like my personal "Fuck you" to everyone who says shit like that. Of course it's obvious that the people who say stuff like that have never actually talked to people in the sex industry so I'm not sure how many opinions I'll change but damnit it'll make me feel better!

How do you SWAAY?

Hello sexylings

Last month a new organization was launched aiming to educate others about sex work and sex workers. SWAAY stands for Sex Work Activists, Allies, and You and is run by Furry Girl who also runs Feminisnt.

The website offers a wealth of information, videos, and other general sex work related resources. The SWAAY website can be found HERE and I highly urge you to visit. Regularly even!

Love sex, love your sex workers.

I had to laugh

I know I have a lot of fun things to catch you lovelies up on but most of that will have to wait until your lovely Goddess is home again.

This post is inspired by events that happened about 20 minutes ago between myself an a former friend on good ol' Facebook. Now you all know that I'm no stranger to sex and sexuality so it shouldn't have come as a surprise to anyone that I'd post an article like "Masturbation! Why You Should Be Getting It On With Yourself".

Apparently, this woman was new. Now, the post isn't mean or anything like that, I'm just wondering how someone would be following me and not get that I'm a sexual creature.

Hey, I thought that post was nasty and lude. I removed it because I didn't want my kids knowing what "masterbation" was. Remove me if you wish, but I'd appreciate it if you didn't put up nasty posts

Maybe it's my crazy sexually liberated ways but what is it about masturbation that makes everyone think it's so "nasty" and "lude"? It's pleasurable and if she had taken the time to read the article she might have learned that it's even healthy. Now, I understand that many parents don't want their children learning about sex, especially from some random stranger on the internet. I don't know the ages of her kids but at one point or another they're going to learn about masturbation. Hell, most infants and toddlers already have it down. Kids touch everything at that age and dammit, if it feels good they're going to keep doing it. Of course most parents scar their kids into shame by severely scolding them and telling them how dirty and wrong masturbation is when really, it's one of the most fucking natural things there is. (Un)Surprisingly, these are also the kinds of people who find no issue with sitting their children down in front of the most violent video games and tv shows they can find.

Encouragement

The real amusing/disturbing thing though is how she can't even type the word masturbation without having to put it in quotations. Like it's some mythical beast that is contained and therefore not real if only she can keep it in the boundaries of the quotations. We're all adults here. We don't need to be afraid of a little masturbation. In fact, I'd really recommend it for all those in the world who vehemently abhor masturbation.

Call in sick, take a hot shower, get a drink and relax. It's just sex.

Reading Materials

Hello loves,

I apologize for my absence. Yours truly has been off exploring England. So far it's consisted of lots of chocolate, walking, and sex. It's a terrible existence. I leave for Paris tomorrow. I'm expecting even more chocolate, walking, and sex in addition to gorgeous lingerie and crêpes.

I wanted to pop in an let you all know what I've been reading of late. I started devouring Whores And Other Feminists a few months ago but was unfortunately unable to finish it. A quick trip to the local library remedied it for me. Although a tad dated, Whores is still an excellent collection of articles and interviewers from sex workers and female pioneers in the sex industry on what it is to be a sex worker and feminist. Published back in 1997, women have come a long way but the relevance of so many of the articles proves that we still have so far to go. This book is incredibly empowering and I recommend it to anyone, female or male, sex worker or not.

Take care darlings. And drink your tea. It's good for you. x

Masturbation!

Hey loves. There's an article by yours truly about the wonderful world of female masturbation.

Be a darling and check it out. Extra brownie points for sharing it with a friend.

The "Myth" Of Female Masturbation

Ireland Poster Campaign Aims To Humanize Sex Workers

A recent ad campaign launched by Turn Off The Blue Light aims change the ways sex workers in Ireland are perceived. A series of four ads features women of all types from different backgrounds describing their every day lives (dropping kids off, going to school, planning to run a business, etc.). It concludes with the line, "And I'm a sex worker."

Turn Off The Blue Light is an Irish organization that is run by sex workers and was started in response to organizations pushing for the criminalization (and in their mind eradication) of prostitution. With their current campaign TOBL is trying to give a more realistic face to sex workers in the country. Most people think of sex workers as either victimized women in horrible conditions or as the "happy hooker" who lives a lavish lifestyle with glamorous clients a la Secret Diary Of A Call Girl. It would seem that few understand or realize that sex workers are mothers, lovers, sisters, daughters, and a million other things. Their job is just that, a job.

Before the posters were released they were shown to the TOBL committee and met with very positive responses. Turn Off The Blue Light

Hello New Role Model

Ines de la Fressange | 53, French Chic & Divinely Delicious
http://www.anneofcarversville.com/body-politics/ines-de-la-fressange-53-french-chic-divinely-delicious.html

I've found a new role model. She's stylish, sexy and 53. Ines de la Fressange is the face of France and a former Chanel model. She also has the benefit of being from a country the actually allows women to be age gracefully instead of forcing them to fit into early 20-something molds. I have two articles posted here and both are worth reading. If they don't convince you to leave the botox and worrying for someone else, just check out her banging body. Fifty. Three.

Here are some choice quotes:

Dove’s Global Beauty Study validated that French women believe they “peak” at 45, versus American women saying they “peak” at 25.

Please note that these answers were given by women, and not by men evaluating women.

45. Not 25, 45. I completely agree too. How depressing is it to think that you've peaked so young in your life? I'm 3 years away from 25 and no way in hell am I peaking then. I'm still learning and what's the point in getting older and wiser if you can't be putting it to good use. If we all peaked at thirty we should just go on and be dead by 30. Fuck that shit! Your 20's are for making mistakes and finding out who you are. You're supposed to use all those lessons later on!

There’s a reason why French women spend 20-25% of their apparel dollars on lingerie.

I cannot stress the importance of sexy lingerie. Women deserve to feel like sex goddesses. When you feel sexy, it does wonders for your confidence which in turn affects so many aspects of your life.

What I do know is that French women have more sex at every age than American women, and I believe our self-perceptions and state of physical health have a lot to do with these differences.

Yes! Seriously, you're never too old to have sex. Flying solo? Invest in some good sex toys. I really think a good vibrator is more of a necessity and less of something you can do without. A good orgasm is far cheaper than botox.

Damn

I want to be her when I'm old.

Kate M by Erwin Olaf

Why I'm not "better than that"

I talked to Jason about my desire to do sex work. He was less than enthusiastic.

"I would be uncomfortable with that...you're better than that."

Am I? No, it's not a self esteem thing. It's the fact that that statement insinuates that those involved in sex work are lesser people. I find nothing about my desire to do sex work lowering or degrading. I'm an intelligent, college educated woman who is already planning out her 2nd degree. If anything, I'd be proud to do sex work because I'm working to break the stereotype that all sex workers were abused growing up and were forced into the industry by men or financial situations. Yes, there are women forced into it by circumstances and it's certainly not something I think is right. A person should be allowed to go into whatever occupation one wants without coercion or shame. It's exactly what I want too, the ability to pursue sex work without people telling me I'm lowering myself of immediately assuming I'm "broken".

It's something I'm trying to help Jason to understand. I get the uncomfortable thing, that was expected. I just want him to at least realize that I'm not lowering myself by wanting to do this. We're both very sex positive people and he's had no issue prior with other people seeing my body.

Will he come around and be ok with my desire to cam? Maybe, maybe not. However, if I can at least get him to see things from my side and realize the people involved in this industry are just as valid and worthwhile as any other person in the world, I'll be happy.

Career Opportunities

A short while ago I asked people this question:

If you had to pick an alternative career, what would you pick?

I only defined "alternative" if someone asked as "something not the norm". Now, I had all sort of things in my head: tv show host, almost anything on Dirty Jobs, etc. When I got my answers almost everyone chose something in the sex industry. The other popular answer was assassin.

What is it with our obsession of sex and death? Is it that forbidden allure? Money? Hollywood glamorization? In the movies the hookers always have gorgeous clients and the assassins kick ass in sexy body suits. Seriously, who didn't watch Kill Bill and want to pick up a samurai sword?

The most common answers I got were stripper and dominatrix. America is schizophrenic when it comes to sex. We hold puritanical views and freak out when nipples are exposed on tv yet its influence is everywhere in our media. Sex tapes get as much media attention as the next movie where Michael Bay blows shit up. Still, when most people are quick to call strippers "sluts" and Pro Dommes "whores" with utter contempt in their voices.

Is our secret desire to pursue these careers a reflection of our desire to express our sexuality in a society that tries to stifle that behavior?