14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 2

Before I do today's challenge, I need to vent for a second. I don't mind that other people have all sorts of different sexualities and are made completely uncomfortable by even the though of things like masturbation. That's your own damn sex life. However, when you take your issues out on me, we have a fucking problem. I swear I want to live in a place where sex isn't such a taboo. Anyway, on with the challenge.

2. Story/age that you lost your virginity.

I was 17 and it was to my boyfriend, Ben. I was a bit of a late bloomer. I was never that interested in having boyfriends and only had 3 or 4 before him. The actual experiences wasn't that memorable. There was no bleeding or severe pain or anything, just a little soreness from never having had something so large inside of me. It was after school at his house. His brother who normally comes home with is was staying late for school and his parents were at work. The sex itself was pretty good. He was experienced which made my experience all the better. We broke up several months later and when people asked if I was upset because I lost my virginity to him people seemed disappointed when I said no. If anything, it helped me really come into my own sexually. See kids, responsible sex before marriage can be good! Yeah I'm the world's best role model.

I caved and bought a Wii Fit Plus

I wanted one for a while and finally got it yesterday. I'm sore from the workouts (especially the strength ones) but it's that sexy "I did something good for once!" sore. It's extra nice because it adds a little something different to my routine. My real goal though is to move to a place where I can either set up my own aerial gym (which pretty much involves scoring big and buying my own place) or be close to a place that teaches aerial arts.

If you've never been able to see aerial arts done live, fix that! I went through a brief Cirque du Soleil phase back in 09 and later that year was able to see both aerial hoop and silks done when I saw Emilie Autumn. It's pretty sexy stuff.

(Source: IAmALewisCarrollPoem


Expect to see some sexy cirque stuff in the future!

How do you SWAAY?

Hello sexylings

Last month a new organization was launched aiming to educate others about sex work and sex workers. SWAAY stands for Sex Work Activists, Allies, and You and is run by Furry Girl who also runs Feminisnt.

The website offers a wealth of information, videos, and other general sex work related resources. The SWAAY website can be found HERE and I highly urge you to visit. Regularly even!

Love sex, love your sex workers.

I had to laugh

I know I have a lot of fun things to catch you lovelies up on but most of that will have to wait until your lovely Goddess is home again.

This post is inspired by events that happened about 20 minutes ago between myself an a former friend on good ol' Facebook. Now you all know that I'm no stranger to sex and sexuality so it shouldn't have come as a surprise to anyone that I'd post an article like "Masturbation! Why You Should Be Getting It On With Yourself".

Apparently, this woman was new. Now, the post isn't mean or anything like that, I'm just wondering how someone would be following me and not get that I'm a sexual creature.

Hey, I thought that post was nasty and lude. I removed it because I didn't want my kids knowing what "masterbation" was. Remove me if you wish, but I'd appreciate it if you didn't put up nasty posts

Maybe it's my crazy sexually liberated ways but what is it about masturbation that makes everyone think it's so "nasty" and "lude"? It's pleasurable and if she had taken the time to read the article she might have learned that it's even healthy. Now, I understand that many parents don't want their children learning about sex, especially from some random stranger on the internet. I don't know the ages of her kids but at one point or another they're going to learn about masturbation. Hell, most infants and toddlers already have it down. Kids touch everything at that age and dammit, if it feels good they're going to keep doing it. Of course most parents scar their kids into shame by severely scolding them and telling them how dirty and wrong masturbation is when really, it's one of the most fucking natural things there is. (Un)Surprisingly, these are also the kinds of people who find no issue with sitting their children down in front of the most violent video games and tv shows they can find.

Encouragement

The real amusing/disturbing thing though is how she can't even type the word masturbation without having to put it in quotations. Like it's some mythical beast that is contained and therefore not real if only she can keep it in the boundaries of the quotations. We're all adults here. We don't need to be afraid of a little masturbation. In fact, I'd really recommend it for all those in the world who vehemently abhor masturbation.

Call in sick, take a hot shower, get a drink and relax. It's just sex.

Hello New Role Model

Ines de la Fressange | 53, French Chic & Divinely Delicious
http://www.anneofcarversville.com/body-politics/ines-de-la-fressange-53-french-chic-divinely-delicious.html

I've found a new role model. She's stylish, sexy and 53. Ines de la Fressange is the face of France and a former Chanel model. She also has the benefit of being from a country the actually allows women to be age gracefully instead of forcing them to fit into early 20-something molds. I have two articles posted here and both are worth reading. If they don't convince you to leave the botox and worrying for someone else, just check out her banging body. Fifty. Three.

Here are some choice quotes:

Dove’s Global Beauty Study validated that French women believe they “peak” at 45, versus American women saying they “peak” at 25.

Please note that these answers were given by women, and not by men evaluating women.

45. Not 25, 45. I completely agree too. How depressing is it to think that you've peaked so young in your life? I'm 3 years away from 25 and no way in hell am I peaking then. I'm still learning and what's the point in getting older and wiser if you can't be putting it to good use. If we all peaked at thirty we should just go on and be dead by 30. Fuck that shit! Your 20's are for making mistakes and finding out who you are. You're supposed to use all those lessons later on!

There’s a reason why French women spend 20-25% of their apparel dollars on lingerie.

I cannot stress the importance of sexy lingerie. Women deserve to feel like sex goddesses. When you feel sexy, it does wonders for your confidence which in turn affects so many aspects of your life.

What I do know is that French women have more sex at every age than American women, and I believe our self-perceptions and state of physical health have a lot to do with these differences.

Yes! Seriously, you're never too old to have sex. Flying solo? Invest in some good sex toys. I really think a good vibrator is more of a necessity and less of something you can do without. A good orgasm is far cheaper than botox.

It's Party Time!

I mentioned a few posts ago that I have a friend who does those Home Party Sex Toy things. Y'know the one where "The girls" get together for cosmos and laugh while trying to figure out what kinds of crazy and sexual words everyone can come up with for all the letters in Cindy's name. All while some lady (a distant acquaintance of Betty) tries to pedal off vibrators and elaborately flavored lubes.

Actually, it sounds kind of fun.

My mom's gone the various make up/skin care routes and is now doing Princess House so the concept of the home parties thing isn't entirely unknown to me. I'm starting to consider looking into it. I love talking about sex and girl I can sell a vibrator like nobody's business. At least I'm sure I'd be able to.

The Little (Wannabe) Sex Worker Who Could

L'amour

"Let's set a goal that in two years we'll only be able to talk dirty to each other in French."

That's what Jason said to me during a conversation about the French we used to know (grew up learning it but lost it when my parents divorced) and our shared desire to pick up the language again. I have to admit, it's an excellent incentive. Of course this is also where my mind runs away from me and I imagine leading him on an elaborate treasure hunt with little cards with phrases or words in French which would lead him to his next clue or destination. Érotique, non?

Anyway, I'm working through Livemocha, old French textbooks and every Audrey Tautou film I can find to get as much re-exposure to the language as I can get. My Facebook is in french and I'm even considering buying a few french cookbooks. Learn french and how to cook. I'll be a domestic Goddess in no time! (Me? Yeah right!)

At the very least I'll be on my path to being the multilingual diva I've always wanted to be. Knowledge is sexy and who doesn't want to be seduced by a french maid who actually speaks French?

Oh la la!