Thursday, November 17, 2011

I think it's love

I've been unwinding from a hectic week today with some nice rum and online retail therapy. What's been catching my eye you might ask? Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab and my new favorite site, Eden Fantasys.

For those not in the know, you poor little dears, Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab is a wonderful perfume company. The have hundreds of sexy and seductive scents including a line for you Saints & Sinners. Go on, indulge your bad and sexy self! BPAL also has some bath oils and soaps to pamper and wash away all your dirty little secrets. With scents like The Harlot's House and a series of scents inspired by the works of Neil Gaiman, Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab is less of a temptation and more of a must have for seductress worth her salt.

And on the topic of sexy, if you've never been to Eden Fantasys, go now. Just this once, I'll wait.

I learned of EF last night when someone told me about some of their giveaways which included getting 3 vibrators for just the shipping cost. Nearly $100 for less than $6. I looked today and it seems that some of the offers have changed. Now with the free gift instead of a vibrator they're offering a vibrating cock ring. However you can still get the vibe from signing up for the newsletter.

If that's not good enough for you greedy little things then browse around the site. Maybe search for something you'v been coveting for a while. Those 5 points you just got just for searching? They go towards a gift card that you can redeem. In addition to the gift cards you can get there're also great reviews, a zine, videos, a forum and tons more. Yes, you've just found your new favorite website.

Visit Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab
Eden Fantasys

Saturday, August 13, 2011

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 4

4. Biggest turn-offs.

There's no easier way to turn me off than by being a selfish douche. I may be a Goddess who required worship but I reward followers handsomely. If you can't give and take, then you're a bad lover and I don't want you.

Smoking's another one. I know some people love it and more power to them. I'm not one of those people. Cigarette smoke makes me feel sick and if you're making me sick to my stomach, that's not sexy.

Not being safe. At the risk of sounding like a PSA, if a guy I'm going to sleep with isn't using protection, it's not happening.

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 3

3. Biggest turn-ons.

A fun one! This list could go on and on but I'll try to keep it short.

Humor - Yes, it's clichéd but it's clichéd for a reason. Keep me laughing and you're keeping me interested.

Sexy hair - David Tennant, I'm looking at you.

Look at that hair. Look. At. It. That's hair you want to run your fingers through and grab on to during amazing sex.

Strap ons - I love strap ons. Something about them is powerful and sexy. I love wearing them, watching women wear them, and even making men wear them.

Dance - Tell me dance can't be sexy and erotic. I dare you to. Typically ballet does it for me but any well executed dance can be sexy. Sex and dance aren't very different. Hell, there are fetish shoes called ballet heels.

Need I say more?

Thursday, August 4, 2011

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 2

Before I do today's challenge, I need to vent for a second. I don't mind that other people have all sorts of different sexualities and are made completely uncomfortable by even the though of things like masturbation. That's your own damn sex life. However, when you take your issues out on me, we have a fucking problem. I swear I want to live in a place where sex isn't such a taboo. Anyway, on with the challenge.

2. Story/age that you lost your virginity.

I was 17 and it was to my boyfriend, Ben. I was a bit of a late bloomer. I was never that interested in having boyfriends and only had 3 or 4 before him. The actual experiences wasn't that memorable. There was no bleeding or severe pain or anything, just a little soreness from never having had something so large inside of me. It was after school at his house. His brother who normally comes home with is was staying late for school and his parents were at work. The sex itself was pretty good. He was experienced which made my experience all the better. We broke up several months later and when people asked if I was upset because I lost my virginity to him people seemed disappointed when I said no. If anything, it helped me really come into my own sexually. See kids, responsible sex before marriage can be good! Yeah I'm the world's best role model.

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 1

1. Your relationship with your current sex partner.

That would be my boyfriend Jason (sorry guys and gals). We've been together for almost a year and a half. We like sex.

Monday, August 1, 2011

14 Day Sex Challenge

I was looking to see if there were any of those daily story/photos/etc challenges for sex and this was the only one I found. I am adding to it though. All you readers, for the next 14 days do something new with your sex partner. Two weeks straight. See what sexy things you can come up with!

1. Your relationship with your current sex partner.

2. Story/age that you lost your virginity.

3. Biggest turn-ons.

4. Biggest turn-offs.

5. Sexuality/experiences with members of the same sex.

6. Favorite position.

7. The thing(s) I’d never do in bed is…

8. The thing(s) that I’m dying to try in bed is…

9. Favorite place to have sex.

10. Best sex memory.

11. Worst sex memory.

12. How do you view sex?

13. Favorite way to provide self-pleasure.

14. Your fantasy.

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Change of plans

I had originally intended to write about how I've been having a lot of dreams about masturbation recently but the words certainly aren't flowing. Instead I realized that I promised more acrobatic videos and since I'm a gal who follows through, here you go:

This is of Julia Kolosova doing hoops from Cirque du Soleil's adult show Zumanity.

Looks like hula hoops aren't just for kids anymore.

In unrelated news, I've been scouring for someone to design a simple website for me and no one is willing to do anything even remotely adult related. I'm revamping my basic cam recruitment page and upgrading to something paid and professional but need someone with just a little bit more skills than I have. Can pay but I have a limited budget. Any takers?

Monday, July 18, 2011

Your chance to help fund a sex worker's right billboard

I've written before about Furry Girl's sex worker's rights group SWAAY.

Right now the organization is running a campaign to fund America's first sex worker's right billboard in Los Angeles. The billboard was created as a response to the Ashton and Demi human trafficking media parade and the need to educate the public on what actually defines a sex worker.

The running design looks like the one presented above and has until August 17th to be funded. The project is being funded through which is essentially a Kickstarter for billboards.

Click here to learn more about the project and to donate.

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

I caved and bought a Wii Fit Plus

I wanted one for a while and finally got it yesterday. I'm sore from the workouts (especially the strength ones) but it's that sexy "I did something good for once!" sore. It's extra nice because it adds a little something different to my routine. My real goal though is to move to a place where I can either set up my own aerial gym (which pretty much involves scoring big and buying my own place) or be close to a place that teaches aerial arts.

If you've never been able to see aerial arts done live, fix that! I went through a brief Cirque du Soleil phase back in 09 and later that year was able to see both aerial hoop and silks done when I saw Emilie Autumn. It's pretty sexy stuff.

(Source: IAmALewisCarrollPoem

Expect to see some sexy cirque stuff in the future!

Monday, July 11, 2011

Is it weird?

Is it weird that the more I hear people talk about how damaging porn is and how everyone in the sex industry is abused/manipulated/unhappy/etc., the more I really want to go into porn?

It just seems like my personal "Fuck you" to everyone who says shit like that. Of course it's obvious that the people who say stuff like that have never actually talked to people in the sex industry so I'm not sure how many opinions I'll change but damnit it'll make me feel better!

Saturday, July 2, 2011

How do you SWAAY?

Hello sexylings

Last month a new organization was launched aiming to educate others about sex work and sex workers. SWAAY stands for Sex Work Activists, Allies, and You and is run by Furry Girl who also runs Feminisnt.

The website offers a wealth of information, videos, and other general sex work related resources. The SWAAY website can be found HERE and I highly urge you to visit. Regularly even!

Love sex, love your sex workers.

Friday, June 24, 2011

I had to laugh

I know I have a lot of fun things to catch you lovelies up on but most of that will have to wait until your lovely Goddess is home again.

This post is inspired by events that happened about 20 minutes ago between myself an a former friend on good ol' Facebook. Now you all know that I'm no stranger to sex and sexuality so it shouldn't have come as a surprise to anyone that I'd post an article like "Masturbation! Why You Should Be Getting It On With Yourself".

Apparently, this woman was new. Now, the post isn't mean or anything like that, I'm just wondering how someone would be following me and not get that I'm a sexual creature.

Hey, I thought that post was nasty and lude. I removed it because I didn't want my kids knowing what "masterbation" was. Remove me if you wish, but I'd appreciate it if you didn't put up nasty posts

Maybe it's my crazy sexually liberated ways but what is it about masturbation that makes everyone think it's so "nasty" and "lude"? It's pleasurable and if she had taken the time to read the article she might have learned that it's even healthy. Now, I understand that many parents don't want their children learning about sex, especially from some random stranger on the internet. I don't know the ages of her kids but at one point or another they're going to learn about masturbation. Hell, most infants and toddlers already have it down. Kids touch everything at that age and dammit, if it feels good they're going to keep doing it. Of course most parents scar their kids into shame by severely scolding them and telling them how dirty and wrong masturbation is when really, it's one of the most fucking natural things there is. (Un)Surprisingly, these are also the kinds of people who find no issue with sitting their children down in front of the most violent video games and tv shows they can find.


The real amusing/disturbing thing though is how she can't even type the word masturbation without having to put it in quotations. Like it's some mythical beast that is contained and therefore not real if only she can keep it in the boundaries of the quotations. We're all adults here. We don't need to be afraid of a little masturbation. In fact, I'd really recommend it for all those in the world who vehemently abhor masturbation.

Call in sick, take a hot shower, get a drink and relax. It's just sex.

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

The Tell-all Escort: For the (non-squeamish) ladies who want to have un...

The Tell-all Escort: For the (non-squeamish) ladies who want to have un...: "Someone asked me on Facebook  if I ever started my period unexpectedly just before an appointment and if so how I handled the situation; if ..."

Sharing this because women, you need to know that there are better options than the pad and tampon. Especially where sex is concerned.

Monday, June 6, 2011

Reading Materials

Hello loves,

I apologize for my absence. Yours truly has been off exploring England. So far it's consisted of lots of chocolate, walking, and sex. It's a terrible existence. I leave for Paris tomorrow. I'm expecting even more chocolate, walking, and sex in addition to gorgeous lingerie and crêpes.

I wanted to pop in an let you all know what I've been reading of late. I started devouring Whores And Other Feminists a few months ago but was unfortunately unable to finish it. A quick trip to the local library remedied it for me. Although a tad dated, Whores is still an excellent collection of articles and interviewers from sex workers and female pioneers in the sex industry on what it is to be a sex worker and feminist. Published back in 1997, women have come a long way but the relevance of so many of the articles proves that we still have so far to go. This book is incredibly empowering and I recommend it to anyone, female or male, sex worker or not.

Take care darlings. And drink your tea. It's good for you. x

Saturday, May 28, 2011


Hey loves. There's an article by yours truly about the wonderful world of female masturbation.

Be a darling and check it out. Extra brownie points for sharing it with a friend.

The "Myth" Of Female Masturbation

Thursday, May 26, 2011

I love porn.

I'm watching Spiderbabe right now and it's so ridiculous. I love it. The camp is great and seriously can't get over Misty Mundae. She's gorgeous and the sexy superhero/pigtails costume is just too damn great. I want it (and her) all for myself!

Anyway, I know getting off isn't the only reason people watch porn. It's damn entertaining even if you're not masturbating. Hang around my friends long enough and you'll hear, "Hey let's get some drinks and watch some porn." Usually it's our friend Samantha who's instigating this. The dialogue gets pretty over the top and the effects equally ridiculous.

My personal favorite is one of the final scenes in Busty Cops where one of the girls is shooting at the bad guy with....her fingers. You know when you would play good guys/bad guys in elementary school and would pretend to shoot at people? Yeah. It's like that. Even better were the comic book-like interjections.

Anyone else have a ridiculous moment to share? Don't be shy! ;)

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Something Weird

I've been on a retro exploitation kick today. It started earlier today when I was watching Faster Pussycat! Kill! kill! and has now moved into the shorts on the Something Weird channel on OnDemand. And just so you know, I haven't been watching retro naughty films all day, I did go to the gym after FPKK.

For those who are unfamiliar, Faster Pussycat! Kill! Kill! is a cult classic exploitation film by Russ Meyer and starring Tura Satana. It's about 3 go-go dancers in the desert on a rampage of sex and violence.

If you've never seen this movie you need to remedy that asap. Also, if you have OnDemand find the Something Weird category on the Free Stuff A-Z. It's filled with retro erotica, PSAs, and grindhouse trailers. Definitely worth checking out!

Friday, May 20, 2011

Hello all you sexy people!

If you've seen my older posts then you know I'll be heading out of the country soon. I'll be in Europe for a little visit which includes France. Je suis trés excitée. I hope to come back with some very very sexy stories but until then I will leave you with this photo of Tiah Eckhardt and Daisy Lowe for Agent Provocateur.

Monday, May 16, 2011

Ireland Poster Campaign Aims To Humanize Sex Workers

A recent ad campaign launched by Turn Off The Blue Light aims change the ways sex workers in Ireland are perceived. A series of four ads features women of all types from different backgrounds describing their every day lives (dropping kids off, going to school, planning to run a business, etc.). It concludes with the line, "And I'm a sex worker."

Turn Off The Blue Light is an Irish organization that is run by sex workers and was started in response to organizations pushing for the criminalization (and in their mind eradication) of prostitution. With their current campaign TOBL is trying to give a more realistic face to sex workers in the country. Most people think of sex workers as either victimized women in horrible conditions or as the "happy hooker" who lives a lavish lifestyle with glamorous clients a la Secret Diary Of A Call Girl. It would seem that few understand or realize that sex workers are mothers, lovers, sisters, daughters, and a million other things. Their job is just that, a job.

Before the posters were released they were shown to the TOBL committee and met with very positive responses. Turn Off The Blue Light

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Role Model

My Role Model The Pornstar

Stoya is the kind of woman I hope to be. Confident, intelligent, crafty, and artsy. The fact that she’s in an adult industry just makes her seem all the more gutsy and in control.

An article I wrote recently about why porn actress Stoya is one of my role models. Give it some love!

Bonus: I completely neglected to mention in the article that she's friends with Molly Crabapple which is probably 10 reasons to love her in itself.

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Hello New Role Model

Ines de la Fressange | 53, French Chic & Divinely Delicious

I've found a new role model. She's stylish, sexy and 53. Ines de la Fressange is the face of France and a former Chanel model. She also has the benefit of being from a country the actually allows women to be age gracefully instead of forcing them to fit into early 20-something molds. I have two articles posted here and both are worth reading. If they don't convince you to leave the botox and worrying for someone else, just check out her banging body. Fifty. Three.

Here are some choice quotes:

Dove’s Global Beauty Study validated that French women believe they “peak” at 45, versus American women saying they “peak” at 25.

Please note that these answers were given by women, and not by men evaluating women.

45. Not 25, 45. I completely agree too. How depressing is it to think that you've peaked so young in your life? I'm 3 years away from 25 and no way in hell am I peaking then. I'm still learning and what's the point in getting older and wiser if you can't be putting it to good use. If we all peaked at thirty we should just go on and be dead by 30. Fuck that shit! Your 20's are for making mistakes and finding out who you are. You're supposed to use all those lessons later on!

There’s a reason why French women spend 20-25% of their apparel dollars on lingerie.

I cannot stress the importance of sexy lingerie. Women deserve to feel like sex goddesses. When you feel sexy, it does wonders for your confidence which in turn affects so many aspects of your life.

What I do know is that French women have more sex at every age than American women, and I believe our self-perceptions and state of physical health have a lot to do with these differences.

Yes! Seriously, you're never too old to have sex. Flying solo? Invest in some good sex toys. I really think a good vibrator is more of a necessity and less of something you can do without. A good orgasm is far cheaper than botox.

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Sex Worker Amnesty

A little while ago I wrote about the murders of several sex workers in Long Island. So far they police are still not cooperating. There's a petition making the rounds that I really am urging anyone reading this to sign. I haven't been able to add the petition directly here but clicking the link below will take you to more info about what's going on and the petition.

Click Here To Sign The Petition

Sunday, April 24, 2011

It's Party Time!

I mentioned a few posts ago that I have a friend who does those Home Party Sex Toy things. Y'know the one where "The girls" get together for cosmos and laugh while trying to figure out what kinds of crazy and sexual words everyone can come up with for all the letters in Cindy's name. All while some lady (a distant acquaintance of Betty) tries to pedal off vibrators and elaborately flavored lubes.

Actually, it sounds kind of fun.

My mom's gone the various make up/skin care routes and is now doing Princess House so the concept of the home parties thing isn't entirely unknown to me. I'm starting to consider looking into it. I love talking about sex and girl I can sell a vibrator like nobody's business. At least I'm sure I'd be able to.

The Little (Wannabe) Sex Worker Who Could

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Amnesty For Long Island Sex Workers

Another reason why we need to decriminalize sex work in America.

So far up to 10 women have been murdered by a serial killer(s) in the Long Island area targeting prostitutes. To a big part of American society, these women were dispensable. Whores who lived in the shadows who knew what could happen to them. Wrong. They were human beings. Friends, sisters, daughters, mothers, and so many more things.

Along with decriminalizing sex workers, we need to remember that sex workers are people too. They aren't dispensable and they deserve to be treated as actual humans. Their murders need to be solved and treated with the same importance as anyone else's murder.

The Police Commissioner of Suffolk County has asked for anyone in the sex industry who might have information to step forward. However, sex workers working in an illegal industry have no guarantee that if they come forward they won't be prosecuted for illegal sex work. The Red Umbrella Project is calling for those in the Suffolk County area to contact the office of the Suffolk County Police Commissioner and District Attorney and demand that amnesty be granted to sex workers allowing them to freely step forward to help solve these murders.

These sample letters come from the Red Umbrella Project website:

Here is a sample letter, which can be emailed to and

Dear Commissioner Dormer and District Attorney Spota,

I am a sex worker / ally to sex workers who lives in Suffolk County / the greater New York City area and I am writing to express concerns my community has about the lack of protection police are offering to sex workers. During this time of extreme anxiety following the discovery of the remains of at least 10 people, it is important for you to extend goodwill to our community.

We appreciate that you have invited sex workers to come forward with information that may help in the investigation of these crimes, but we are requesting that you formally establish amnesty for prostitution related offenses until the killer has been apprehended. Declaring amnesty would go a long way in demonstrating that the police are serious about prioritizing the lives of sex workers.

Organizational affiliation (if any)
City/state/zip code

Sample phone script - you can call (631) 852-2677 (SCPD) and (631) 852 – 2575 (DA’s Homicide Bureau):

Hello, I am a sex worker / ally to sex workers who lives in Suffolk County / the greater New York City area. I am calling to request that DA Spota formally establish amnesty for prostitution related offenses until the serial killer is apprehended. If the police motto is to protect and serve, you must work harder to extend this to sex workers.

I am also, with my modest blog, urging those in the area to get involved. If you're not in the immediate areas you can still do your part by spreading the word and educating those around you.


The Red Umbrella Project

Thursday, April 14, 2011


"Let's set a goal that in two years we'll only be able to talk dirty to each other in French."

That's what Jason said to me during a conversation about the French we used to know (grew up learning it but lost it when my parents divorced) and our shared desire to pick up the language again. I have to admit, it's an excellent incentive. Of course this is also where my mind runs away from me and I imagine leading him on an elaborate treasure hunt with little cards with phrases or words in French which would lead him to his next clue or destination. Érotique, non?

Anyway, I'm working through Livemocha, old French textbooks and every Audrey Tautou film I can find to get as much re-exposure to the language as I can get. My Facebook is in french and I'm even considering buying a few french cookbooks. Learn french and how to cook. I'll be a domestic Goddess in no time! (Me? Yeah right!)

At the very least I'll be on my path to being the multilingual diva I've always wanted to be. Knowledge is sexy and who doesn't want to be seduced by a french maid who actually speaks French?

Oh la la!

Friday, April 8, 2011

Things That Make Your Goddess Happy

In addition to regular whoredom I'm also an admitted fashion whore. At a party earlier this year I saw an incredible girl in a green vinyl corset and accompanying petal skirt. The shine of the green was so alluring and the short leaflike petals of the skirt were just long enough to leave you yearning for more. I immediately wanted two things:

1. To fuck her senseless.

2. To run off with her outfit for my own devilish purposes.

Naked is sexy but clothing can me too. In fact, a $50 Amazon gift card from a very lovely friend has me one step closer to a fashion item I've long been coveting.

The ballet heel.

Non ballet ladies, if you think your heels kill your feet, don't ever dance en pointe. Ballet heels take the beauty (and sexiness if you're turned on by ballet like I am) of pointe shoes and turn the sex and kink dials up to 11. The come in all sort of styles ranging from ankle length to thigh high but the uniting factor is the roughly 7 inch heel that puts wearers on the tips of their toes.

Sex. Pure, erotic sex.

They also play into one of my favorite fantasies. I've always walked on my toes. When I was younger I'd always break in new shoes by walking on the tips. Pointe shoes are some of my favorite things ever. I also have quite the Domme streak. I've never had a slave or a sub but I've always loved the idea of locking up my sub and leaving to go run errands in a sex latex outfit and, you guessed it, ballet heels. The idea of going out while everyone stares and knows I'm up to no good thrills me. Knowing that there's someone back home completely dependent on me is thrilling as well.

Basically, I'd wear those fucking shoes any and every chance I have. If you've got it flaunt it.


Thursday, April 7, 2011

Why I'm not "better than that"

I talked to Jason about my desire to do sex work. He was less than enthusiastic.

"I would be uncomfortable with're better than that."

Am I? No, it's not a self esteem thing. It's the fact that that statement insinuates that those involved in sex work are lesser people. I find nothing about my desire to do sex work lowering or degrading. I'm an intelligent, college educated woman who is already planning out her 2nd degree. If anything, I'd be proud to do sex work because I'm working to break the stereotype that all sex workers were abused growing up and were forced into the industry by men or financial situations. Yes, there are women forced into it by circumstances and it's certainly not something I think is right. A person should be allowed to go into whatever occupation one wants without coercion or shame. It's exactly what I want too, the ability to pursue sex work without people telling me I'm lowering myself of immediately assuming I'm "broken".

It's something I'm trying to help Jason to understand. I get the uncomfortable thing, that was expected. I just want him to at least realize that I'm not lowering myself by wanting to do this. We're both very sex positive people and he's had no issue prior with other people seeing my body.

Will he come around and be ok with my desire to cam? Maybe, maybe not. However, if I can at least get him to see things from my side and realize the people involved in this industry are just as valid and worthwhile as any other person in the world, I'll be happy.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

The Toy Box

Here are some of my favorite toys:

Floggers - My first real intro to floggers was at a party. I was familiar with them but had never used them or had them used on me. Let me tell you, it's wonderful. They can be made to have more of a stinging feeling or more of a thud. Of course after the beatings running them lightly over flesh feels amazing.

Vampire Gloves - These aptly named gloves are one of my absolute favorite things ever. Run your nails lightly over your skin. Feel good? Of course it does. These gloves have tiny spikes on them and give you that same sensation as having someone lightly run their nails over your skin. Scary name but at least for me, these are for playing nice. :)

Rope - I'll admit it. I'm a rope addict. Gimme 15, 30, 50 feet of that 6mm nylon goodness. When someone puts me in a harness that rope feels like a favorite well worn t-shirt. Did I mention it looks fucking amazing too?

Suspension is another aspect of rope that has to be experienced. Wanna fly? Get suspended and see how quickly you get addicted to it. Another great thing about rope is the knots. You can tie them anywhere.


And of course the knots lend themselves well to...

The Hitachi - Here's why:
1. Get (SAFELY) tied up with some knots down in your lower area with at least on over your clit.
2. Turn Hitachi on an press against one of the knots
3. You're welcome

And those are some of my favorite toys!

Monday, March 21, 2011

Independence and the life

Is it wrong that despite having someone offering to pay for me to travel, I'd still prefer camwhoring so I can do it on my own?

I've never been comfortable with other people taking care of me. Even when I was on crutches I insisted on doing things on my own. Growing up I learned to stand on my own to feet so now that I have someone willing to help me and take care of me, it's hard to accept it. I'm trying to swallow my pride but I'd much rather go on a vacation that I can contribute to (or completely finance) than be taken out.

Am I trying to keep a distinct separation of the two things, being paid for my company vs wanting to treat me because my own company is a gift? We love each other so who am I to deny him having me around. I love him and I'd love to spend that time with him. Maybe he thinks that if he does this I won't be so interested in sex work anymore. That's not the issue. I'll still be interested in the things I'm interested regardless of the time and money he spends. Work won't change my feelings for him. He's a separate entity.

A job is a job. You just separate the two.

Found this doing a search on the Weimar Rebuplic

And there's sex so it's relevant.

My mind's refusing to acknowledge the guy on the left as anyone but Captain Jack Harkness.

Now feel free to go and continue your sexing...safely.

Sunday, March 20, 2011

The Tell-all Escort: While on the subject of the unfortunate side-effec...

The Tell-all Escort: While on the subject of the unfortunate side-effec...: "Let's talk about how artery plaque affects your ability to achieve the raging hard-on of your dreams:I take a lot of massage appointments, ..."
I’ve met 90 year olds who have lead a healthy life and still get rock hard erections. Be them instead.

Truth. Guys (and Dolls) - If you're looking for more motivation to get to the gym/rock wall/stripperobics, there's your reason.

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Musings @ a quarter to 5

I should be sleeping, I have an early morning.

I've spent the better part of my evening Skyping with my boyfriend and our friend. I was naked most of the time just for the fun of it; no one cared. I like that freedom. I don't understand why people are afraid of sex/sexuality/the human body.

It's beautiful.

I also don't understand how we we demonize sex and call it dirty in one breath then tell kids sex is for someone special in the next. Can someone explain that to me?

Monday, March 14, 2011

Career Opportunities

A short while ago I asked people this question:

If you had to pick an alternative career, what would you pick?

I only defined "alternative" if someone asked as "something not the norm". Now, I had all sort of things in my head: tv show host, almost anything on Dirty Jobs, etc. When I got my answers almost everyone chose something in the sex industry. The other popular answer was assassin.

What is it with our obsession of sex and death? Is it that forbidden allure? Money? Hollywood glamorization? In the movies the hookers always have gorgeous clients and the assassins kick ass in sexy body suits. Seriously, who didn't watch Kill Bill and want to pick up a samurai sword?

The most common answers I got were stripper and dominatrix. America is schizophrenic when it comes to sex. We hold puritanical views and freak out when nipples are exposed on tv yet its influence is everywhere in our media. Sex tapes get as much media attention as the next movie where Michael Bay blows shit up. Still, when most people are quick to call strippers "sluts" and Pro Dommes "whores" with utter contempt in their voices.

Is our secret desire to pursue these careers a reflection of our desire to express our sexuality in a society that tries to stifle that behavior?

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Cam Girls

I'm going to kick things off with one of my favorites. Web Cam Girls.

We've all seen ads for them whether we're trying to watch tv online, game, or nearly anything else. They're everywhere. My favorite is Kayla123, whose boyfriend seems to break up with her time I go to surfthechannel to watch Battlestar Galactica. But I digress.

Cam girl offer an intimate experience for people who want something more personalized than porn. For a lot of women who choose to be a cam girl, it allows exploration in the sex industry without some of the risks associated with stripping at a club and escorting. Some do it for the money, some for the thrill of being watched. I'm a bit of an exhibitionist and if I could ever get my partner to consent, would love to give it go either solo or partnered.  There's something about knowing I'm being watched that thrills me.

Being in control also excites me. Yes, those paying make requests but I'm still ultimately in power with the right to say no. It's...well...empowering which is part of what sex work is about to me. And by doing it on webcam there's little risk. The biggest worry is that someone you know might see you or someone could record the stream. If that's a worry, there are wigs (just secure that thing to your head!) and if your stream gets recorded and uploaded most companies are good about getting those videos taken down.

There are a lot of sites out there so it's worth checking out what they each offer. LiveJasmin is one of the most popular ones with some of the highest traffic. MyFreeCams has also been recommended for beginners. The one that's appealed to me is They have a few points that I really like:

  • Training - lots of newbies aren't entirely sure what to do which can cost them. You wouldn't start any other new job without training, would you?
  • Weekly pay -  Because 2 weeks can be a long time between paychecks
  • No minimum payout - Who decided to have a min. anyway?
  • Several payment methods - Paypal! Sometimes you need to be more discreet/don't want things linked to a bank account. 
  • Affiliate program - Agents make 10% of what the models they get to sign up make. Unlike some companies where that money comes from the model's check, InternetModeling pays you. 
I maintain, who doesn't want to get paid for doing what they should be doing already. C'mon ladies, you've been told before: masturbation is good for you! Venture into a sex shop/website/sex party and get your own big fat dildo! You can even name it! My friend named one of her's Justin since it quite literally was a "dick in a box."Be creative and have fun! - Webcam Models Wanted!

Saturday, March 12, 2011


It sells.

For the last few years I've had a growing interest in the sex industry and in sex workers.  From cam girls to call girls to that woman who sells your girlfriend that cherry lube that you love to use, plenty of people deal in sex.

It's an industry that has drawn lots of criticism and can be very polarizing and while plenty people want to see it eliminated, I saw we embrace it and the workers who have chosen this career for themselves. I want to use this blog to explore different aspects and path out there.